Oh, how many times I said these words. In the 18 years as a nanny before my own kids, I had it all figured out. I will never passed out of my lips almost daily. Wow, have I ever, plus some!
I was with one family for 10 years. And two other families and a Montessori school. I had many children's parents to say how I would never about.
I will never let my children go without a haircut so long. This poor child can hardly see because of how long their bangs are. It's not that hard to take 30 mins. to get their haircut. Fast forward. My sons often need their haircut for weeks before they get it. Fitting it into a day, week, or month is not easy.
I will never let my kids come home 10 mins. late and not have a consequence. No wonder they behave they way they do for them. If they would just lay down the law the kids would be more respectful toward them. Spoken like a real pro, huh? My oldest son is often 5-10 mins. late, apologizes, and we move on. Maybe he would show more respect and less mouth if I were tougher with this. Or, it has a lot to do with the age and fact that hormone surges start at the same time we are letting them experiment with some freedom. Hmmm.
I will never let my kids go without washing their sheets every week. If they complain about being itchy in their bed, I will take care of it. Then I got the hyper sensitive tactile kid. Fresh sheets just put on and he is all about how he can't sleep on them because they make him itch. Please put the blanket that is soft on top and I will sleep on that. O.k., so I am not changing the bed daily because of Mr. Picky. Guess I have joined the ranks of that mom.
I will never let my kids sleep all night with their light on. Don't you know they can't sleep well and will still be tired in the morning. Oh, and by the way, they will never sleep in my bed to help with this either. My oldest slept with us until he was 6. Pretty much nightly and all night. At 6 he started to some nights sleep in his bed all night. I, of course, panicked at that because something must be wrong. He has a night light that looks like day light in his room and yet many times I find at some point in the night he turned on his overhead light and slept. Guess what, he was more rested than he would have been laying in fear all night. I still slept fine, and our day starts.
If only I still had it figured out like I did before they were mine. And before Jesus showed me judging others may not be the best choice of how to go about life. All the I will nevers are now being passed on to me. I am now on the receiving end. Many neighbors with younger kids point fingers and say it. And yet as their kids are reaching the ages mine were when they moved in, they are. And those with older kids point and say mine didn't do that when they were that age or that they didn't do it at all. We were outside with our then younger children. Guess what, they did do those things at the ages mine are now, and they did do those things, I saw it.
As long as life goes on we will always say I will never about something. Few of those things will you actually never. And I still think back to the wisdom that the now friend that I nannied for used to share about parenting. She was able to see what really mattered to her for her children to learn and be like. The rest she was able to let slide. I try to do much of the same. It is part of being the parent and showing love to your children.
I will never be one of those bloggers...http://www.ellenstumbo.com/i-really-thought-i-would-never-end-up-here/
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